July 17, 2006

• Just in case you missed me, i thought i should post and update all y'all....

  
  

  the mammogram/sonogram of my breast showed a tumor.  not the one i felt, but in another location.  now i have to get a biopsy on the 8th of August.  even though i know the chances are even that it could be a fibroedema and benign, why does the word "tumor" immediately conjure up the word "cancer"?

  
  

  dj's best friend called us friday night to say that, after 18 years and 2 kids, his wife has asked for a divorce. quite unamicably.  and so mj spent most of saturday and most of sunday with us.  since both he and his wife are our friends, this is very sad.  and it has nothing to do with falling in love with someone else, just with external forces...

  
  

  dj and i took the moms back to St. Peter's, Perth Amboy (where i did my internship) to see everybody.  it was so nice to be welcomed with open arms!  but one of my friends has had a set back - lung cancer that had been eradicated by radiation has metastasized to her hip, so she is now on chemo and tolerating it badly.  her name is carole, and her husband, billy, told me that he is so scared that he will lose her... so if any of you would be so inclined, i would really appreciate you sending prayers to God (or, for my atheist friends, healing thoughts to the universe) for healing and strength for both of them.  also, i discovered that Fr. Rod, the priest who mentored me so wisely and well there, has polyps on his vocal chords, and his xrays showed an abnormality, so he must have a biopsy done at the end of August.... so please, healing for him as well...

  
  

  Ces and i and Dj and i have been going around and around talking about measuring success.  both Ces and Dj feel that, if you have not achieved a certain level of material success, you are a failure.  Dj ended up blowing up at me out of frustration with his job on thursday - he refuses to give up this job he hates because he has to have a certain level of income in order to meet his bills.  he has these bills still from his first marriage because he felt he had to have a certain level of material achievement to feel good about himself.  Ces is upset because he can "only" afford a $500K home, when all his friends and family live in $750K+ homes.... they seem to be in the majority, while my satisfaction with what i have, even if it is nothing by their standards, seems to be the counter-cultural trend of thinking.  it was such a terrible blow-up on thursday, that even the pets were afraid of Dj... i have to say i was not afraid, just very very sad...

  
  

  so... to recap since my last post > tuesday i found out i have a tumor, thursday Dj and i had a killer fight, friday Mj told us about his impending divorce, and sunday i discovered that two of my very dear friends are quite ill....  i hope this week is better!

  
  

   

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