June 28, 2006
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I give myself to those who offer love -
can it be wrong?
Your eyes tell me so,
and yet,
lonely rivers flowing to the sea
give themselves to many brooks in their passing...
covi
our lunch group got into a discussion today about sexual activity. it's an interesting mix, our lunch group > one is a young, single mother in her early twenties, one is a recently divorced woman in her mid-thirties who is in the throes of match.com dating, one is a divorced and remarried man in his mid-fifties (his second marriage has lasted over 25 years), and there is me, a divorced and remarried woman in her late forties. i will have been married to my second husband for eight years as of next month, but there were 10 years between my divorce and dating dj... so we have one member who has never been married, and 3 who have been divorced. it allows for a broad range of viewpoints.
jz,the youngest, the single mom, was adamant that you should only date one person at one time, period. she has never been married, but i don't know if that necessarily impacts her belief. ls, the woman in her 30s is enjoying the ability to date all sorts of men as often as she likes, but sees finding someone to be exclusive with as her goal. rc says he is too afraid to cheat, but more because he doesn't think anyone would want him if he were single than that he is afraid of his wife.
neither rc nor i think that sexual infidelity is the end of the world. rc always viewed sex as a fun, recreational sport. i have always viewed it as one more way to create intimacy in a relationship. but this does not mean that i would be careless of the feelings of another - i do not think i could have sex without there being intense emotional connection, however. and it would not bother me so much if dj had an affair, dependng on how he felt about her - if he loved her it would be easier for me to take than if he just thought she was hot...
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teh is a sarcastic term on the internet when something is "teh awesome" or "teh suck"
:heartbeat: Is it love, lust or a covenant?
I don't see any reason why sex shouldn't be casual, or because you think a person is hot, rathe r than loving them.
And you should be able to see multiple people, unless you and another specifically promise to be exclusive, or 'go steady'. Then, cheating is bad, because it breaks your word, and such.
i don't think i'd react any differently if chris cheated because he had an emotional connection with another woman or just because he thought she was hot. either way, the promises we'd made to each other would be broken.
Thank you for the nice comment! I'm sorry I don't comment more often, I don't really know much about that Church stuff. My church is organised in a completly different way.
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